Where's my kitty?

I am horribly depressed right now. My cat is missing. I feel empty. I am so worried about her and feel responsible for not looking for her earlier. She's been gone three days now and I just started looking for her today. It's been three days and I have not seen her. I don't know if being hormonal has anything to do with how sad I feel but I don't think so. I always told Zeke if she went missing I'd be devastated and here I am, crying like a baby cause I can't stop thinking about it. You'd think she were a human being by looking at how upset I am.

Our dog went missing last week but that was because someone let him out. Truthfully, I hated that dog so I am not sad about him. I did worry he was hurt at first but I think someone would have taken him in if they found him. That is fine with me cause he annoyed me! But the cat is a different story. She's been my baby for three years. I am just kind of frozen.

Hope I don't sound too insane.

A Pattern

Tell me what you think--if you go out on one date with a guy, does that mean you're dating him? To me, the answer is no. Now if later on you have the "just friends" conversation with this same guy TWICE, and then find out he was telling people at work you two were dating, what do you do? Because this is the where I find myself at present.

This isn't the first time this has happened to me; it's the third time, actually. In my head, there is a difference between one date and dating. Maybe I give guys the wrong impression, but then again I think the "just friends" talk combined with the complete lack of physical interaction and interest backs me up. To quote Kasie, what do you guys think?

Sorry been MIA

Hey, just wanted to say I've been kind of busy. I've been really emotional lately and stressed out so I don't really have much to say in here. Work, school, housework, sleep. That's my life right now. Lo siento.

What do you guys think?

I posted this somewhere else originally but I am desperate. What do you think? DH stands for Zeke. Well it stands for darling husband but just think DH is his name and it will flow easy.


I need advice...

DH made a friend at work, I will call him Jerk. We (Jerk and his wife and DH and I) have hung out outside of work and truthfully I have fun with his wife but Jerk gets on my friggin nerves. He throws tantrums and brag-brag-brags about everything. He just does not stop talking about himself and what he bought today or how cool he is and on and on. It's annoying. I want to punch him in the face every time he opens his mouth. So Jerk was recently promoted and is now DH's boss. He is treating DH horribly. Jerk is also treating other people really bad and every day DH comes home with another story about how crappy this guy is acting. He has an authoritarian management style (think dictator) and he is just a big fat JERK! I hate his guts. I really truly hate him. I was brought up to not use the word "hate "unless I was serious so there it is. I mean it!

I told DH I don't want to hang out with Jerk anymore. I am done. I don't like him. But DH is determined to not get on his bad side so every time this guy invites us over, DH kisses this guy's but and says yes! Last time he called (Labor Day) I was making no-motions in the background, waving my arms, shaking my head, then yelled at DH after he got off the phone to stop being nice to him. I am over hanging out with this guy. We ended up going over there anyway. DH and I were getting ready to sit down to dinner, ribs, potato salad etc and ended up bringing our food over and sharing with this A-hole. (I am still mad about it. Those were my ribs!)

Today DH came home and told me a story about how "JERK" wouldn't let some guy go home early today to escort his wife to her ultrasound appointment. OMG I am so livid! DH is making me feel like I've lost my mind. He keeps telling me to stop worrying about the dumb guy at work but he keeps coming home and telling me more stories. I don't know what to do. I've told DH I don't want to hang out with him. I make up excuses all the time but it's not working. I am tempted to tell his wife "I am so sorry to tell you but I absolutely hate your husband" just so we don't have to go over there anymore. I have to hold my tongue whenever we are at their house cause this guy brags about what an ** he is to people, like that's something to brag about? Wow have I mentioned I hate him?

The advice I need is what the heck do I do? I want DH to be happy but hanging out with this guy goes against my own principles. This guy is the exact opposite of what I think a human being should be and it is just WRONG for me to continue associating with him. It's like I continue having problems or DH starts having problems. I can't find a happy compromise.